Life-long partner or temporary companion?

Do you believe that when you become involved in a relationship, your partner will be with you, both deeply in love with each other, until death do the two of you apart? Well I'm pretty sure most of you will think that way when you engage in a relationship(unless you just want the sex...lol!).

Since I never been in a relationship before, just want to ask, what comes into your mind when you first accepted your partner's proposal to be your .... well, partner? Is it his personalities? Is it the way he make you feel? The security factor? The undying attention of love? How about the possibilities of a future? Do you see the grey hairs of togetherness? Maybe all of the above? Maybe none of the above? I don't know!

Whatever it is, I feel that if you do get engaged in a relationship, you should at least be able to foresee a future together, one with a complete family at the least. I mean, if you date a rockstar which nobody heard of, and his only source of income is you(cuz he love you babe!), then I don't see how it can work out. But of course, nothing follows "rules" if you remember my previous posts, so if you can still see a future even though that type of situation occur, then go for it. Work hard for the things that is important to you :).

How about those who couldn't really see a future, or due to recent events, the future suddenly became very, very distant, almost out of sight. Then how? Haha! Nobody can answer you because in this type of situation, it is at uttermost unjust for anyone except you and your partner to decide on what to do.

The reason is that outsiders won't know how you feel. They can say "oh yeah I've been through it before and I know how you feel", but do they really know? They can, they might, but those words also spell uncertainty to me. No 2 love is exactly the same, and although yes it is possible that they DID felt it before, but in the end of the day nobody can really justify that for us.

Feelings is like a boundary breaker. Like if you have your last RM10, and you haven't eaten lunch, by the natural law of survival, you would buy lunch. Suddenly, one very sad kid come to you, she is very sad, needs money, you felt very very touched, you might even give your last RM10 to her and rather starve yourself for the day. Feelings can alter what we usually say "should do" and "must do". It is both our flaw and our strength.

So being in love, having deep feelings(or at least you THINK its deep...confusing much? XD), it makes things super complicated. Though my general advice for people who don't see a future in their relationship anymore is to break up, I don't know the feelings involved, and hence my advice is only there as an option for you to consider on.

Of course, there will be those who choose to wait, and pray hard for things to change. If it does, your patience is repaid :D! If it doesn't, you only lengthened your suffering unnecessarily. It's like gambling. Either win all or lose all. So choose wisely. Try to remove the fogs in your mind for a second if you can. Emotion fogs up logic :D.

What about those who only seek temporary companion? Maybe you just want someone new to forget someone old? Once again, maybe you just want sex or attention or stuff like that until you're bored or feels its not sufficient anymore and move on to a new one? Whatever your reason is, STOP! It's unhealthy! You should engage in a long term relationship. You wouldn't want to die alone with/without sex transmitted disease do you? Haha.

That is all...