A sign of life, and then back to the grave

People change, sometimes for the worse.
Now I know I've changed a lot, and much of it is really for the worse.
If I realise it, I will try to change my ways of life.
But somethings are just not easy to change.

After going through so much in life, I've learnt to know when to give up, and when to stand ground. Now if you know you are wrong, or you honestly do not remember, you should admit it, you're wrong, or you honestly do not remember. You don't go around counter-attacking people with whatever points you can grab. Worse thing is if you suddenly drag in topics totally unrelated to the matter of argument into the argument itself, making things more complicated.

Yeah, I used to be like that. Now I try to just keep quiet. But silence doesn't mean agreement. I'm quiet either because I know I'm right, but I do not have the right points in mind to fight with, OR I'm not sure if I'm right or not, OR I just don't see a point in arguing because all my points will just get countered attacked by some totally unrelated sheez.

I know all my friends love me so much, and I'm hurting them everyday. I know I must change my ways. But I know, among all people, that avoiding doesn't help. So i won't just distance myself from my friends. I'm going to change my ways.

Like all guys, I have ego. But why have such ego? Does winning arguments with my friends be at all beneficiary to me? Now, when I try to think in their shoes, I find that, hey, I made sense, but they too make sense, since both ways makes sense, why not just choose theirs'? You know, as stupid as I sound, the more i lose, the more I'm actually winning :). Losing at appropriate times make me seem like a reasonable, approachable guy, hence my friends treat me nicely. And when I start doing this, i realise, they also find less and less reason to argue with me. If i did something minorly wrong, they will just point it out to me and actually HELP me correct it.

So what's the point for today's blog? I just want my reader to know, to win the hearts of others you must first win your own heart. Think this way, if I am a selfish,egoistic bastard, will I be MY OWN friend? Lastly, I wrote this to remind myself not to become my old self. I want to change for the better. I want my friends to feel that their judgement of a good friend is not wrong.

Life-long partner or temporary companion?

Do you believe that when you become involved in a relationship, your partner will be with you, both deeply in love with each other, until death do the two of you apart? Well I'm pretty sure most of you will think that way when you engage in a relationship(unless you just want the sex...lol!).

Since I never been in a relationship before, just want to ask, what comes into your mind when you first accepted your partner's proposal to be your .... well, partner? Is it his personalities? Is it the way he make you feel? The security factor? The undying attention of love? How about the possibilities of a future? Do you see the grey hairs of togetherness? Maybe all of the above? Maybe none of the above? I don't know!

Whatever it is, I feel that if you do get engaged in a relationship, you should at least be able to foresee a future together, one with a complete family at the least. I mean, if you date a rockstar which nobody heard of, and his only source of income is you(cuz he love you babe!), then I don't see how it can work out. But of course, nothing follows "rules" if you remember my previous posts, so if you can still see a future even though that type of situation occur, then go for it. Work hard for the things that is important to you :).

How about those who couldn't really see a future, or due to recent events, the future suddenly became very, very distant, almost out of sight. Then how? Haha! Nobody can answer you because in this type of situation, it is at uttermost unjust for anyone except you and your partner to decide on what to do.

The reason is that outsiders won't know how you feel. They can say "oh yeah I've been through it before and I know how you feel", but do they really know? They can, they might, but those words also spell uncertainty to me. No 2 love is exactly the same, and although yes it is possible that they DID felt it before, but in the end of the day nobody can really justify that for us.

Feelings is like a boundary breaker. Like if you have your last RM10, and you haven't eaten lunch, by the natural law of survival, you would buy lunch. Suddenly, one very sad kid come to you, she is very sad, needs money, you felt very very touched, you might even give your last RM10 to her and rather starve yourself for the day. Feelings can alter what we usually say "should do" and "must do". It is both our flaw and our strength.

So being in love, having deep feelings(or at least you THINK its deep...confusing much? XD), it makes things super complicated. Though my general advice for people who don't see a future in their relationship anymore is to break up, I don't know the feelings involved, and hence my advice is only there as an option for you to consider on.

Of course, there will be those who choose to wait, and pray hard for things to change. If it does, your patience is repaid :D! If it doesn't, you only lengthened your suffering unnecessarily. It's like gambling. Either win all or lose all. So choose wisely. Try to remove the fogs in your mind for a second if you can. Emotion fogs up logic :D.

What about those who only seek temporary companion? Maybe you just want someone new to forget someone old? Once again, maybe you just want sex or attention or stuff like that until you're bored or feels its not sufficient anymore and move on to a new one? Whatever your reason is, STOP! It's unhealthy! You should engage in a long term relationship. You wouldn't want to die alone with/without sex transmitted disease do you? Haha.

That is all...

Single vs coupled ftw~!

For decades now, there has always been arguments regarding the weightage of perks of being either a single person of a coupled person. Lets do this post in point form! :D

Perks of being single:

• Save cash
• No commitments whatsoever to anyone(except family of course! Must be filial :D)
• Have plenty of time for yourself
• Combine the first 3 perks and you can have an easier life because you can generally put more time and effort on whatever project/assignment/work you need to finish up, improving quality and reducing the impact of its workload due to proper time management(unless you're a procrastinator then this point totally ruled out xD)
• Can flirt around with many girls at the same time ;)
• Gets alot of attention (if you're good looking or something liddat)
• DON'T HAVE TO SEE THE SAME FACE EVERY SINGLE DAY LOL LOL LOL(courtesy of K**** xD!)

Cons of being single:

• Loneliness(worsens when their coupled friends tells their love stories, or certain special occasions that were spent alone)
• If no best friend and not that close to family, then no place to turn to for comforting and secret sharing and stuffs like that
• Nobody to take care of you when you're old and frail(applies also to the longer living one of the couple) - courtesy of Alex xD
• I can't think of any now... lol!

The list can go on and on for different people as they experience different things in life, but I think its safe to say that this can be a somewhat general list of pros and cons of being single? Now why didn't I do the same for couples? It's because every single couple in this planet Earth turns slowly...its hard to say i rather stay awake when I'm asleep is ever so unique and different. One shall NEVER EVER SAY things like "she should like bla bla bla cuz that's normal for a gf to do right?" No it's totally not normal. Lol! We are made the way we are, flawed in different ways. If everyone also follows some sort of coupling rules, then what's the point of us struggling so hard to choose and to feel for someone, sometimes extremely impossible to get? Might as well just pick one random person because in the end, they follow the rules and you will be guaranteed of happiness. So yeah, I don't believe in coupling shoulds and shouldn'ts. It's wonderful, perfect, happiness if you follow them, but if you don't also I'm sure something else you possess will somewhat cover that "weakness" of yours. Look harder for these perks if you think your other half you're dating now doesn't follow the shoulds and shouldn't properly.

As much as people can argue about statuses and which is better, I believe that coupling is the only way of living. In terms of biology, you can turn on your TV, switch to National Geographic channel, and it will show you that every single animal in this world have only 1 purpose of living, which is to ensure the survival of its species, which is done easily by mating. So following what Mother Nature did to everyone else occupying this planet, I assume us human should also do the same. Sure being single rocks mostly for its peak drop of responsibilities, but I think for 1 to really mature, he/she has to take in responsibilities and do what we were meant to do! MATE! Biologically speaking of course ;)! Sorry-la I'm a science student xD!

Jokes aside, if you think being free now is great, wait til you're 90 and alone in your gigantic mansion that you worked for with your own flesh and blood. You'll realise how awesome it is to have a lifetime companion with you. At least that person can help clean the darn house xD! Of course, you can always opt to have a loveless relationship with your gazzilion hired maids :D! Because if you have money, you can have SEX! Just no love. LOLS

OMG I FORGOT SHOULD BE IN POINT FORM NOOOOOO XDDD